I have come to know and understand that we are all programmed.
We are wounded generationally and are programmed based on those wounds, even if we are not obviously wounded, we are programmed.
I have not met anybody who is not wounded in some way.
We continue carrying the wounding and programming onto the next generation and the next and the next.
Until NOW, it is our time to reprogram and stop living in the shame based, not enough life we keep perpetuating from this programming.
Our parents were wounded, their parents were wounded, and their parents were wounded, ad infinitum….
Each generation carries its own wounding from parenting and cultural wounds.
These wounds get passed along generationally.
These parental wounds can be from emotional, physical, adoption, neglect, abuse, abandonment… You get the idea.
The cultural wounds come from the programming of buy more, take this drug, slavery, racism, poverty, separation, depression era…
How can they not be passed along through the generations?
They are given from our parents to us. Our parents received them from their parents.
In addition to the parental trauma, our culture has it’s own traumas that we also take on.
Our parents can only pass on what they knew, their parents can only pass along what they knew…
It is not anybody’s fault. It is simply what is so and how it happened. We don’t know anything different, until we do.
If we don’t do something different, we continue the cycle of trauma and wounding.
It is time for us to stop living from the shame and not enough programming.
It is time for us to take responsibility for our choices in life.
It is time for us to reprogram the trauma and programming that is NOT OURS to begin with.
These wounds and traumas are passed along unconsciously from generation to generation, until NOW.
There is NO FAULT. There is NO BLAME. There is NO SHAME.
The fault happens when we know it is not working and still do nothing to make it different.
It takes courage to look at ourselves and be willing to reprogram and heal the trauma inflicted.
You might be wondering how exactly do we do this healing and reprogramming.
UNDERSTAND these wounds and traumas are a byproduct of being human.
ACCEPT there is no one to blame, the programming is a function of being human.
BEGIN where you are and choose one thing you’d like to do different, the programming or belief you’d like to alter.
PICK ONLY ONE belief or behavior or thought you’d like to “change”.
Be MINDFUL of this choice and be AWARE of when it happens and consciously shift to the NEW PROGRAM/NEW THOUGHT/NEW BEHAVIOR.
Remember the incident that happened in July, the one where I was rocked to my core and began questioning ALL of myself, how I am and who I am.
The self-doubt continued to show itself so I could heal the deeper layers of shame and blame of not being good enough.
MY FIRST REACTION: I was PISSED OFF. I was HURT. I felt BETRAYED.
When I allowed those feelings to move out and the doubt continued to show up, I looked at it, I felt it, I acknowledged it.
Then, I REMINDED myself that person is acting out of her own wounding.
I have been triggered because of my own wounding and this is another opportunity to heal and let it go.
I asked myself “what do I need to feel solid, confident, secure…?
I kept reminding myself of ALL the evidence to the contrary of what that person had said to me.
I continued TRUSTING ALL the evidence that revealed to me I am okay.
I remembered I can RELY on me to be transparently authentic everywhere in my life.
I soothed the Little One that lives inside of me that needed to feel safe and secure.
I was reminded to give her what was needed and STOP buying into someone else’s wounding.
It was a process.
It takes discipline and commitment to stay the course.
It takes others to remind me to keep moving on the course.
What is ONE thing you’ll commit to doing different?
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