How do you separate yourself and NOT take it personal? It takes alot of transformation for us to not be triggered and subsribe to what someone else says, especially when it is someone we care about. OR we believe what they said to be the truth about ourselves. And it is someone we care about what they think of us. And we had no idea this was how they really felt nor did we see it coming. 13Dec2017
I spoke to how our words create our reality, which actually goes deeper than our words. Our thoughts come before our words, ALWAYS. How we’ve been taught and conditioned by our guardians as children sets the stage for our view and perspective of life. It is how we are and show up in the world, usually. 06Dec2017
As a human being moving out of the anger, fear and judgment is quite a process, especially given the lifetime of programming we receive. It takes time and commitment and sometimes it feels like no matter how much time we’ve spent reprogramming and healing certain aspects, someone comes along and pushes that button again. It is our opportunity to heal the deeper layers of wounds we carry. 29Nov2017
Learning how to let go of the fear, or at least, take steps to move through it. Speaking to how to take the leap of faith and trusting the net will appear.22Nov2017
HOW MANY WAYS DO YOU BULLY YOURSELF? HOW OFTEN TO YOU ABUSE YOURSELF WITH THE WAY YOU SPEAK TO YOU? Why is this acceptable? How does it work for you? Do you speak to others the same way you speak to yourself? Do you allow others to speak to you the way you speak to you? 15Nov2017
I continue reprogramming the self-talk that sabotages me or talks me out of doing something. Sometimes it’s as simple as “I don’t feel like it” since I now work alot from home. When I do this I must be disciplined enough to stick to my schedule. Otherwise, I will put things off. I always honor my appointments, this happens when I have a list of things to do to grow my business and be productive and proactive in putting myself out there to build my audience. 08Nov2017
This attitude will show up everywhere to some degree or other. It also reveals how I am going with the flow of my life, my schedule or my plan. It tells me how much I want to control things that are out of my control.
Some times I am better than others. 1Nov2017
Quite frankly, I can talk about gratitude and what I am grateful for ALL day long. When I do it that way, it becomes just a normal thing and I’m not really FEELING the gratitude. When I write it out, I pause to consider WHY I am grateful and it drops me from my head to my heart.
Over time and commitment of writing out my gratitudes, I begin to live in that space and it becomes my attitude. You’ve heard the saying ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. This becomes my “normal” way of being. 25Oct2017
The more we learn to love ourselves from the inside out, the more uncomfortable the process can feel. We are stepping out of our comfort zones to create new ways of being with ourselves, which is uncomfortable.
Rather than being okay being uncomfortable, we may revert to our m.o., so we can feel “normal”. 18Oct2017
How does your behavior come out sideways and what is it revealing? How many times have you felt something and dimissed it by telling yourself some BS about why your feeling is not real or you shouldn’t feel that way?
One of my sideways behaviors, which today I take as a cue something is amiss, is dropping the F-BOMB. 11Oct2017
We normalize the abnormal. We allow people to treat us any way they choose, because it is “normal” or it is their stuff. We allow ourselves to be mistreated, so we don’t rock the boat. AND, THEN, we mistreat ourselves.
We abuse ourselves with our own self-talk. We disrespect ourselves by dismissing our feelings when things are inappropriate. We become silent so we don’t rock the boat. Our intuition speaks and we dismiss it or minimize it, because what it is saying would not be accepted by “them” 4Oct2017
Are you mindful and aware of what you are saying to yourself?
If so, what are you doing about it?
Are you proactive in making it different?
Do you ignore it and pretend you aren’t doing it to yourself?
How do you justify it and minimize it?
What is the action you TAKE OR NOT?
We live with ourselves 24/7. It takes time, commitment and discipline to reprogram the voice in your head. 27Sept2017
It is our journey into loving ourselves from the inside out that reveals to us our own shadow side.
It is IMPORTANT we look and feel what is going on inside and, then, learn how to heal and own it.
If we don’t, we will continue being ruled by our shadow side, because like a starving animal, it will demand we pay attention. So, why not be pro-active and choose to shine the light and learn to live with our whole selves.
This weeks recording includes another tool for the purpose of looking and being aware of what we may want to do in a different way. 20Sept2017
This was only POSSIBLE because of the transformation we have done together and prior to coming together in our relationship. We have walked the journey inside and have come to love ourselves from the inside out.
How we are with ourselves dictates how we are with each other and the result of our journey inside is: WE GET TO BE THIS WAY WITH EACH OTHER. 13Sept2017
We met and at 3 weeks I get a text from Lew telling me; “that’s it. I’m done looking, you’re the one.” I was a bit excited and scared that he would say that after ONLY 3 weeks. You see, my pattern was to be the one to say that first. We meet, we like each other and soon after we are having sex. I was in love with being in love. I had no idea how to BE in a relationship that was healthy, loving and reciprocal. Today, I have all of that and MORE. 6Sept2017
Are you a MOVER AND SHAKER for your own personal rights?
Your right to your feelings. Your right to feel and acknowledge your feelings. Your right to share those truths you discover about yourself.
This is all part of the journey into loving yourself from the inside out.
I found I didn’t need anybody outside of me to be abusive, I was perfectly capable of doing that to myself. I fed myself poisonous food and water with my beliefs and thoughts about myself. I locked myself in my own mind of torture and isolation. 30Aug2017
We accumulate stuff, feelings, life experiences and emotions that left UNPROCESSED, accumulate inside of us like garbage. When we continue stuffing the garbage, eventually, it begins to stink. The stinkiness is our behaviors that are the result of our STUFFED STUFF!!! Is it any wonder we struggle with loving ourselves? And have issues in our relationships?
Sometimes it’s alot of garbage, other times it is fairly clean and we get to keep it picked up. I watched the video and it occurs to me that we do this to ourselves as humans, whether it is emotional garbage or we collect things in our lives. 23Aug2017
Do you find that you are stuffing, eating or drinking your emotions?
When I don’t want to deal with something I will eat or go do something to completely distract me from feeling my feelings. I don’t like feeling those uncomfortable feelings and sometimes I will do things to NOT FEEL them.
The feelings make me ffffeeeeellll VULNERABLE.
I am not comfortable being vulnerable. OR feeling something I’m not quite sure what I’m feeling OR it’s not a pleasant feeling. Life has a way of happening. We interact everyday with people, unless we’re agoraphobic or something else. 16Aug2017
I find myself frustrated because my feelings are raw and right on my sleeves. Then, I’m upset with myself because I’m NOT on the other side of it already.
GUESS WHAT? I get to practice what I’m preaching/teaching. I get to give myself PERMISSION to be EXACTLY where I am at this time and this moment. 9Aug2017
People reflect to us who and how we are. Sometimes, it is a behavior I may not exhibit anymore, but I also have not forgiven myself for being that way. The reflection includes the beautiful things too. Often we can get caught in seeing only the things we see as issues or problems. 2Aug2017
Much of my life was spent YES-ING people because:
I wanted to be liked.
I wanted to fit in.
I thought you would be mad if I said no.
I thought if I made you happy, I would be happy.
As a result, I made myself absolutely CRAZY.
Now I was doing nothing well and nobody was getting the best of me.
I also would have to quit something, inevitably, because I’d overlapped and overcommitted. 26July2017
How I am with me determines how I am in EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP. There are NO EXEMPTIONS!!! It is why I am so very PASSIONATE about this course and my coaching. We must love ourselves first and foremost OR we are not able to truly love another. How I treat me is ultimately how I will treat others, even if I never speak a word; I can often sit in judgment of others in my head. It is the same judgment I do to MYSELF. 17July2017
The words we speak are powerful. They are creating the fruits we will bear. When we speak words positively, we add positive to the universe and we get positive from the universe.When we speak words of ill will about ourselves or others, we get that back from the universe.12July2017
I did something the other day and I have not been able to reconcile with myself. My gramma was put into a memory care facility on July 1. I offered to come over on that day to help with anything left to do, since I am limited on my availability to be of service. I was told the best way I could help would be to take her cat to the pound, since she could not take it with her to her new living place.
I sobbed that night thinking I signed this cat’s death warrant. It went against my VERY NATURE to leave this cat to it’s certain death. The TRUTH is I have no idea what will happen to the cat. I pray for him everyday. 5July2017
These voices in my head, when they are in fear, ARE NOT my friend. They are there to sabotage and keep me from stepping out and feeling uncomfortable. They think they are keeping me safe from experiencing pain. When I remember all the evidence in my life that reveals I have always been safe and taken care of NO MATTER how scary jumping felt, I can alleviate the voices in my head. 28June2017
Fortunately, we caused no harm to each other or our relationship. We ate food and miraculously changed our mood.
This is a simple warning sign that has the potential to turn into a big deal. Please listen to hear more tips and tools to the behaviors that are revealing something deeper that is happening on the inside of us. 7June2017
On this journey to Loving Ourselves From the Inside Out, it is important that we know our value and what we feel. Our feelings are not facts, however, they do let us know when something is good or not in our life. Our feelings remind us of our human-ness and can be a guide to what is working or not in our relationships with others and ourselves. This is when delivery and timing can be critically important. When I assess my feelings and determine what is going on inside, then, I can decide if I want to address something with someone. I get to look it how we relate to each other. Is it working effectively or not for me? Am I taking something personal that is not personal? What am I REALLY feeling? 31May2017
I am being triggered by some people. I’m wondering what and why I am feeling so irritated. I’m wondering why I feel so plugged in by what others are or are not doing/being/behaving.I’m coming out sideways in my own comments, as a result of feeling this way. I do recognize things are revealing themselves and showing up to be cleared out. Yes, I understand that intellectually, however, I’m still acting out sideways. IE: being short and snarky with people… 24May2017
On the call this Wednesday I’m speaking to the words we speak to ourselves. You see, whether we speak them out loud or not, what goes on in our head is predominant to the fruit we bear in the universe. Yes, the external universe, but more than that how we feel inside our internal universe. We are the micro-cosm of the macro-cosm. 17May2017