BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF

While having lunch with a friend today, we were chatting about our respective businesses, which are similar in nature and have there own style and delivery.

I am wondering and inquiring about how to refine my niche and what to call myself as a MENTOR COACH, meaning what defines who I appeal to and what I help them with. (BTW: input FROM YOU is welcomed).

I have said LIFE coach, which is broad and general in my mind.
I have said RELATIONSHIP coach, which many hear as couples coaching.

Personally, I think of RELATIONSHIP coach as our, 1st and foremost, relationship with ourselves.
I am very clear I am the common denominator in my world and how I am with me dictates every single relationship I am in.
My friend actually called me a “Relationship Mastery Expert”, which feels closer…

When someone asks what I do, I have replied, “I help people reprogram their negative self-talk.”

Hang with me here, I do have a point to this.
I have been trying on different coats to see what fits.

We are having this conversation and it was suggested I put myself into the category to reach the masses based on languaging and SEO(search engine optimumization). The language people are using when they are searching the internet.

Some of the examples offered were: finding the love you want, keeping the love you find. Find ing your ideal mate….
Alluding to the fact that we ALL (or many of us) desire to be in relationships, whether romantic in nature or friendships.

It goes contrary to my very nature. The whole idea of “fitting in” is probably behind this.
I feel like I want to be set apart from the main stream language.
I want to use language that is exactly for the people searching for me and what I offer.

The truth is everywhere I go, there I am.
How I am with me is how I am with you.

IT ALL BEGINS WITH ME (OR YOU)!!!

What are you bringing to the table to contribute to a relationship?

What are you wanting from the relationship?

Who is showing up in your relationships?

My point of sharing this context is simply about remaining true to me.
It does not resonate for me to find language to appeal to the massses.
I am seeking to narrow my niche to those that are seeking exactly what I am bringing to the table.

~The skills and tools to reprogram and heal the
wounding that occurred when we were children.

~The transformation that allows us to love who
we are and be comfortable in our own skin.

~The training and experience that makes me
really extraordinary at who I am and what I do.

~The ability to love and laugh ay myself,
instead of being so SERIOUS about life.

*Here are some of the symptoms or signals that show up for me when it is NOT resonating.

~I get a prickly feeling on my back and neck, kind of like my skin is crawling type feeling.
~I resist it immediately, which is sometimes just me being stubborn and not open.
There is a diffence in this kind of feeling. (you’ll have to discern your own)
~It just doesn’t feel right and I have no reason why.

*Some things to do for yourself, instead of going with the masses.

~Sit with it. Really sit with the feelings and what you are resisting.
~Give yourself 24 hours before taking any action behind someone’s suggestion.
~Be honest about what you want and examine if what they are saying has validity to it.
~Have more conversation, if necessary.

Usually, when it is the one it is “supposed” to be, it SINGS IN MY HEART.
Like my website name: Hello Extraordinary Life
It got narrowed a bit with the name of the private Facebook group:
Loving yourself From the Inside Out.

These names stuck and I felt INSPIRED by them.
When the name that is for my mentor coaching arrives, it will feel this way.

ANY THOUGHTS OR FEEDBACK?
When you think about me and what I do, how do you define it?

Marti (Hicks) Forrest