I see many people get root bound in their way of being because this is “just how it is”. It is like any plant or animal, it will live within the confines it is given and not know any different, until it does. We humans often do the same thing. We live within our own confines of our limited beliefs, victim mentality or the mental constructs until we can see there is another way.
Now, I’m thinking about our own lives when we are on this journey of learning to love ourselves from the inside out. How much it may feel like a sacrifice to change our behaviors, beliefs and attitudes about ourselves and live a much more fulfilling life. We don’t usually physically die in the process making different choices, but it may feel like something has died in us. 29May2019
They are transformed from this whole experience. They get their basic survival needs cared for and this gives them a solid foundation to make different decisions for their life going forward. They can accept the hand up now. 15May2019
Once we unearth our soul light, we may attempt to hide it by throwing the dirt back over it, however, your light will still shine through. This is what we are here to do, it is part of our purpose on this earth. We are here to unearth our light and shine so brightly others have permission to shine theirs too. 8May2019
This is what the call will be about today, tending to ourselves first and foremost. When we mind our own business we usually don’t have time time to mind someone else’s. 1May2019
One of the tips is to decide before you get triggered into that behavior what you can do instead. Once you know the behavior, when it shows up and you have decided ahead of time what you are going to do different, you can implement it when it happens. 26April2019
Sometimes it is in everyone’s best interest to be discerning when making decisions to help another. Sometimes the best decision is to get out of the way and wish themwell on their journey, even if you can see the path they are about to take. When weget out of another person’s way, they get to experience the lesson or healing they are meant to have. Otherwise, our helpfulness can be hindering their progress. 17April2019
Emotional Wellness means we honor ourselves, our feelings and all the ways we experience being human. Often it means giving ourselves permission to feel what we feel, decide what to do with those feelings and handle ourselves in ways that causes no harm.
Just like the orchid, we must care for our insides and shine the light into our own unconsciousness and create a healthy environment to thrive in, so we can shine everywhere in our world.
Remember you are creating your world based on your thoughts and perspective of it. This is a simply powerful tool that begins the day and sets the energetic space for it to occur within.
Today, I choose to perceive the world differently and I do my very best to manage my emotions. All this means is I take care of myself when I become emotional, I honor where I am at, I let people know where I am at and I choose to be responsible for myself and my behavior at all times, even when I act out.
It was unplanned, however, a woman that has participated in the previous 6 week course was willing to share her experiences of attending the program 2 times. She is considering taking it again, because she has found it so powerful and seeping deeper into the psyche with each attendance.
This is the role any person plays in our lives. When we are triggered deeply, know it is not the person in front of you that triggered you, it is almost always about some wound that is unhealed and got poked. When our reaction does not match the situation in front of us, meaning it is over reacting to what just happened, it is about something much deeper.
You see, we can only be truly 100% authentic to ourselves FIRST AND FOREMOST. This creates authenticity in the rest of our relationships, while being discerning about whom we share more deeply with.
Here is the gist of it: when we visualize our dream or goal, we must add in the details of it, especially the part about what it feels like when we are successful. What it feels and looks like taking the action steps necessary.
This episode is about the reflection of one human to another, not gender related. It covers how we see another is truly how we see ourselves and what to ask ourselves in the process of deciding if we want to shift our behaviors or we like them and want to keep them.
What is our business is our response to whatever is happening. The only thing we can change is our attitude and our response to life. When we actually do this, we don’t really have time to get into anyone else’s business.
We ALWAYS are at choice. Every single thing that happens in our world is our choice. What I mean by that is, we may not be in control of the circumstance that just happened, BUT, we are at CHOICE for our response or reaction to it. Therefore, every single thing is our choice. When it is our choice, we become 100% responsible to how we show up in the world. We also choose where to put our time and energy purposefully.
Feeling our feelings takes practice. Many of us have been taught or told we were to be seen and not heard, which caused us to stuff our feelings. In this episode, I speak to how to feel them and what to do with them.
There are basically 2 primary emotions: LOVE and FEAR. All other emotions fall into one of those categories. Our human mind only wants to feel good feelings. Our reality is we have many more than that. When we stuff them, dismiss, ignore or pretend they are not there, they begin leaking out everywhere.
Part of our routines ought to include the rhythm and cycles of the seasons of life. Often, we keep doing the same things and attempt running at the same pace all year. However, It is the winter season now. It is a time of reflection, regrouping, recharging and taking stalk of how our past year went. Where were we successful? What routines and habits served us well? Where would we like to have done more and how would we choose to go forward into this next year?
Let’s suppose for the purpose of this conversation that we are each 100% responsible for the creation of our life. I am inviting you to stretch and simply suspend whatever your belief is to step into this concept of we, each one of us, is 100% responsible for the creation of our current life. I, YOU, WE CREATE OUR WORLD FROM THE INSIDE OUT.
This weeks recording is about our family and Christmas time, because many of us seem to have all kinds of stuff around the holiday. Whatever your family stuff is, whatever meaning you give it, whatever shows up for you because of what you think it should be.
This experience here I got to CHOOSE my PERSPECTIVE, instead of being mad or disappointed because it didn’t go my way OR a victim of circumstances. This is so empowering to be at CHOICE for how I show up. How others show up is none of my business and I get to decide how I want to be with me.
What I mean by this is when we don’t or won’t look inside ourselves and talk about what is going on for us, it seems, many of us think it is going to go away. I have gathered from my own and others’ experiences, we get afraid to look at what we are really feeling, because we think it will be too painful. As a result, we STUFF IT down as deeply as we can.
1- Gratitude actually changes our physiology
2- Being in a state of gratitude releases dopamine (the feel good chemical in
3- It is food for the brain and we can get addicted to that good feeling (in a good way)
4- It helps us sleep better
5- We have less pain
6- We have less stress
7- It reduces anxiety and depression
What I actually do is NOT offer my unsolicited advice about what I THINK they should do, or what has worked for me when I felt like that, or offer solutions when they are in the midst of their emotions about the “problem”.
Instead I ask what they need from me. How can I be helpful? Can I do something for you right now?
Just because we want to be better, doesn’t mean we are not good enough.
You see, if we never think we are good enough, it doesn’t matter how much we do. The moment we even get close to “good enough” we change the measure, so we perpetuate the belief we are “not good enough”.
Wednesday October 31, 2018 I have 24 years clean and sober. It has been an extraordinary journey getting here. It is part of why I do what I do today. I did alot of school of hard knocks growing up. I had no idea how to truly be in relationships with people without using, abusing and manipulating to get what I needed or wanted.
I get it, no matter what my skewed perspective tells me, I am here to do what I do and I must continue doing that.
Out of this I get to allow others to go on their journey, trusting and knowing
that I am still sharing my message and it is NOT for everyone.
The mental programming is dense and automatic and when we choose mindfulness, we begin to disrupt the habitual self-talk that quietly erodes our confidence.