Once I have this opinion or belief and I think I ought not to feel this way, I have stepped into judging my judgment. This happens when I don’t like what I am feeling and I decide I want or should feel different than I do.This also happens whether it is about you or me. If I am judging you, you can be certain I am judging myself in the same way. 22Jan2020
I have found choosing a word or phrase I can embrace and embody for the next year has been incredibly helpful.
Whenever I have done this, at the end of the year I reflect and see how much I have grown into that way of being. 15Jan2020
How many times have you put yourself in a situation and wondered why? What was I thinking? I knew this was against my intuition and did it anyway. I opened the door to a situation that has not changed, yet, somewhere inside I still hoped it would be different. It wasn’t any different and now I’m wondering how to close that door I OPENED. 8Jan2020
What I am speaking to today are the stories we tell about ourselves that keep us emotionally locked in the place we are. We tell the same story about our lives and this keeps us stuck in the story. It does not allow us to move forward and become who we came here to be. 01Jan2020
Our brain is an amazing tool that we can absolutely learn to reprogram to our benefit. Some benefits are creating a healthy body by creating new neural pathways in the brain, which then create a healthy environment for our bodies to thrive within. Another one is creating a future we LOVE and choose to live into by visualizing ourselves into this future. 18Dec2019
This is the intro. I got kicked off Facebook live, right in the beginning of the video.
I hung up feeling very abused and beat up. Some of the familiar dialogue showed up in my head about “what did I do wrong?” “what could I have done different?” AND replaying the litany of the blaming me game… 4Dec2019
It was quite extraordinary to be able to own it and share with each other and simply share authentically what showed up. I am deeply grateful you all are part of my tribe here and I truly appreciate you reading my stories and insights. 27November2019
I spoke to our intuitive abilities and ways to learn to trust what we “know” intuitively and how to build those muscles.20November2019
I spoke to navigating toxic relationships. Our responsibility for our own self and how to continue raising your own vibrations and conversation stoppers with these types of people. 13 November 2019
I spoke to the process of playing BIG in the world. Your BIG may be different than mine and you get to define that.Consider what you are here to be and do in this life, how do you do what you do in the world? 6Nov2019
Today’s topic is about giving up our complaining stories which leave us feeling like a victim and ways to choose to become 100% responsible for our choices and experiences.
This can be a tough nut to crack because we are taught and conditioned to blame others for what is happening in our lives and, of course, the world. 30October2019
Here is what this means: we often listen with ears that are listening for certain words or key phrases that validate what we already know or think we know about them or ourselves.
We listen to them in a certain way based on our conditioning of how our relationships are or have always been. 23October2019
When we learn how to deliver with love, kindness and lighter words it can be a much easier conversation with someone.When we learn the timing of our delivery that can make the conversation much more palatable. I believe the most important person we can be truthful with is OURSELVES. 16Oct2019
NOW…. DRUM ROLL PLEASE!!!
IT IS FINALLY HERE. I have received at least one copy of my PUBLISHED BOOK. I am in anticipation of unveiling my book with you on the live show.9Oct2019
This video addresses how things show up to let us know we are doing life by ourselves.
This is what I am noticing. I wake up early with thoughts about what I’m doing for the day and then make myself crazy because they are not done or I didn’t make a list or I scheduled too many things and now I feel I don’t have time.
How many of you are feeling this way or have felt this way?25Sept2019
Feelings are not facts but they can sure feel like they are, especially when we allow the thoughts to create the stories based on the past and what happened before. Then, it does it over and over and over when we are undisciplined with our habits.
The thoughts that run in our mind are mostly habitual patterns that run over and over based on some past event that caused us to feel something.
These thoughts are what create our feelings because the story happens first and foremost in our mind. The emotions follow based on the thoughts we have about something.18Sept2019
When I forget my why I am grateful when someone comes along quite unexpectedly and reminds me I am making a difference.
When we remember the bigger reason “WHY” we are doing something in our life, it is a little easier to stay focused when life happens and we get discouraged or distracted. 11Sept2019
There is something that happens in the brain when we complain all the time. It becomes wired for negativity and digs a deeper groove into the neural pathway. Complainers become habitual in their way because it wires the brain to operate with the most efficiency.
Scientists like to describe this process as, “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”
Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.4Sept2019
We are each here to shine our light into the world and give others permission to become their own light shining into the world and so on…
Each time we heal, we own, we acknowledge something showing up to be cleared out, we are raising our LOVE vibration and shining brighter so the world can see.
This is our purpose here on this planet to shine so brightly the world sees and heals and continues to give us life.28Aug2019
Most often PTS creates a reaction in us and we could use different coping skills to manage our symptoms and potentially heal the trauma. It does not mean we forget, it means we learn other ways to deal with ourselves when we feel triggered in our life today.
Think about anything in your life you have had strong emotional reactions to and you kept reliving or revisiting the situation. I find this is sympotmatic of something deeper that was touched and we are now stuck in a trauma reaction. 21Aug2019
This seems to be the theme this week. Pressurizing myself to get things done. I received my edited book and suggestions for additions. Now, I feel pressure to get it done along with some “assignments” my coach gave me last week. Lo and behold, don’t you know how busy my schedule got as a result of having more to do. 14Aug2019
Judgment creates a fear response in the body. When this happens, cortisol is released and we now feel unsafe, whether we are in judgment or feel like we are being judged. When we feel unsafe our whole system inside is running amok and we create all kinds of stuff in our outer world too.
If you want to heal it, you gotta feel it.
We can pretend and deny all we want to too, yet, these stuffed emotions continue to show up in our lives and when we deny that the experience affected us; a) it continues to fester & b) it comes out in all of our behaviors, especially when the wound gets touched.
This doesn’t require our buy in to be true. It doesn’t matter if we believe it or not. When we live with emotions we have buried because we think it is too painful to feel it, THEY ALWAYS COME OUT.
I see many people get root bound in their way of being because this is “just how it is”. It is like any plant or animal, it will live within the confines it is given and not know any different, until it does. We humans often do the same thing. We live within our own confines of our limited beliefs, victim mentality or the mental constructs until we can see there is another way.
Now, I’m thinking about our own lives when we are on this journey of learning to love ourselves from the inside out. How much it may feel like a sacrifice to change our behaviors, beliefs and attitudes about ourselves and live a much more fulfilling life. We don’t usually physically die in the process making different choices, but it may feel like something has died in us. 29May2019
They are transformed from this whole experience. They get their basic survival needs cared for and this gives them a solid foundation to make different decisions for their life going forward. They can accept the hand up now. 15May2019